Saturday, July 05, 2008
July 6, 2008
Relationship or they say being in love is HARD WORK!!!
Why do I say being in a relationship or being in love is hard work. I feel that it is a full time - mind boggling part of your life that you want to make sure that everything goes well. And sometimes when the harder you try to avoid making the same mistakes - the most avoidable things happen. So tell me - isn't that hard work?
You may have read many of those self help book on relationship, finding your prince charming and etc. Finding a man to fall in love is easy. But finding the right man is like quest and keeping him is another thing.
People always ask me why at this age of mine - I'm nearing my big 40 that I still have not settle down with my Mr Right? It's a question I always drag being ask. Ask me about anything else but don't ask me about my complicated love life.
Since I have not been successful in looking for Mr Right. I have decided to look for Mr Left. Crazy huh? Think again. If you think looking for Mr Right tough - looking for Mr Left is tougher. The reason why looking for Mr Left i tougher in my books that's because you have to accept Mr Left for what he is...
Definition of Mr Left? Mr Left is just the opposite of Mr Right. He is not the ideal man to some ladies but he is after all a man.
Mr Left is never a perfectionist and he can be a stubborn bloke too!!! When I was going up like many other ladies in my age group - wants a man who is tall dark and handsome. And to some extend we would want him to have everything. But after my years of searching and going thru too many unnecessary headaches, pain, sleepless night and waking up to puffy eyes the next day - I HAD ENOUGH!!!
Therefore as my age nearing to the big leap of 40 - I have settle that I am contend to be with
Mr Left. So what - he is not perfect and so what if he is not 6'2 tall. I am happy to say that I have found myself Mr Left. Finding Mr Left was not an easy task. I had to go thru many "battleground" before I found him. We started as a mutual friends. It wasn't those love at first sight (that's probably happen when you meet Mr Right!!!) it was just a normal hook up.
As time passes by - the feeling Mr Left grew deeper. I for once thought that I will not fall in love again after I walk out from Mr Right (you must be wondering - what's wrong with her???). We fought often and argue . I guess you really learned about a person thru self is when you both go thru difficult times together.
That's exactly what happen! As months passes by - so does the problems and challengers that was thrown to us got deeper. At times during quiet time with God - I asked him... God - if he is the right man for me - why are you not blessing me with joy and happiness of being in love. Why are we always faced with challengers that tested our faith in You and in us. Well I'm happy to say that till date I am still Mr Left and nothing has change. And you know what even at times I told him that I had enough - I knew deep down that I love Mr Left with all my heart and soul and I will not pass up Mr Left even Mr Right passes me by....
That's is what we call being in a relationship. It is like being in a relationship with God. He loves us his children for what we are. Forgiving our sins even before we asked for forgiveness. He loves us unconditionally and should never forget HIM. He is our FATHER and without him - life is meaningless.
Even if you passes by Mr Right and Mr Left - you will never ever pass by God!
God is love - Vivian
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